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December 10th, 2017

Stress Tip #182: The Pause Before the Storm

Gregory Kramer (Insight Dialogue) emphasizes the importance of beginning a dialogue with a pause, and William Ury (The Power of a Positive No) encourages us to stop before we might say “yes” to something we’ll regret. I respect this advice and, additionally, invite you to consider using a gentle pause before easing into any conversation. We can collect our thoughts and think about what we might say and how we might listen. The pause can be long or short, whatever is needed in the moment. Can you also allow enough time for a moment of relaxation before engaging with the other person? Rather than bursting into a monologue, can we confidently begin from a place of calm and openness to listening before we even enter the room?

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December 10th, 2017

The Book and the Workshops

Ease into Freedom: Keys to Reducing Stress and Unlocking Your Potential, a collection of the first 53 Stress Tips, is available through most book outlets or from the author. Consider it a gift to yourself and others that lasts a┬álifetime.

A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction refresher will be held January 6, 2018, 9:30 - 11:00 am, at the Center for Rehabilitation Care in Chapel Hill.

The 8-week series of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction sessions starts January 22, 2018, 6:00 - 8:00 pm, on the UNC-Chapel Hill campus (